When a marriage or relationship is in trouble, couples wait too long before they decide to
see a marriage counselor and usually only AFTER hope has all but disappeared. They
consider counseling as a last resort and hope the therapist has some "Magic Button" to
quickly heal, repair and restore their relationship.
I'm here to tell you...
THERE'S GOOD NEWS AND THERE'S BAD NEWS.
The BAD NEWS: If you define counseling success by which marriages are kept intact
for at least one to two years (or longer) after counseling, you should know THERE IS
ONLY A 30% SUCCESS RATE (according to one study done some years ago).
So, Why Does Tradional Marriage Counseling Often Fail?
After 30 years of marital/relationship counseling,
I can say that marriage counseling doesn't fail the couple... rather often
it's the couple who fails the counseling process!!
Couples fail to keep appointments, often canceling and resetting meeting dates.
This interrupts the ongoing continuity which is critical to the success of the process.
The average couple, whether married for 6 months, 5 years or 25 years,
stays in counseling for only 3 sessions and never returns!
Why is that?
Sometimes individuals and/or couples are not fully and totally committed
to the counseling, allowing other priorities to keep them
from the primary goal of resolution and restoration.
Often, the process may invoke emotional pain and rather than work through the
moment they abort the counseling. Following major surgery, the patient goes through
the healing and recovery process with the pain at its worst and the patient
wonders, "Why did I go through this?" But, when the healing is complete and
their health is restored, THEN they are grateful that they endured the
procedure. The same holds true for marriage counseling.
Consistent, Committed Counseling Counts!
How can I help you to stay committed?
How can I help you to have the confidence and trust that the distress you may go through
is only temporary and is well worth it in the end? The answer is the Marriage &
Relationship Rescue, Recovery and Restoration Program... where I PAY YOU!!
With traditional counseling sessions, couples pay
as they go for each counseling hour. Then, for
many reasons, they may miss a session or two
and then life gets in the way, and by default,
they decide to drop out.
"Marriage counseling is very much like joining a
gym. If you sign up for 12 sessions with a
personal trainer and only attend three, you
won't lose that weight or gain that muscle!"
That's why I pay you! If you know you're
going to be paid for attending your session,
you're much more likely to show up! And the
more regularly you attend, the more
likely you will save your marriage!
separation or divorce - that the emotional hurt intensifies and the reality of a lost mate or
significant other begins to take hold!
So, is it too late to reconcile?
Not when both parties are willing to re-
examine and try, it is never too late!
Divorce is costly!! In the case of marriage
or relationships with financial involvement,
the separation or divorce will often involve
legal fees of a substantial nature. A typical
divorce that is contested and goes to trial can
involve fees of $50,000 to $100,000 or more!
The
Marriage & Relationship
Rescue, Recovery and Restoration Program
Difference
You will learn to become a master in changing
communication and conflict resolution skills by
modeling and role playing the basic skills that
need to be acquired for resolution of
differences and understanding the agendas
that need reconciliation... under the watchful
and guiding eye and voice of Dr. Ross.
One key component of the Marriage & Relationship Rescue, Recovery and Restoration Program is known as the "Fair Fighting Principles."
Working with the principles of "Fair Fighting" as taught by Dr. George Bach, author of
Creative Aggression and The Initimate Enemy, you will learn a concept known as
the "Fair Fighting Principles" and "No Hitting below the Belt." This work encompasses a
colorful terminology to enable you to get a handle on the communication problems at the
root of most conflicts.
In your sessions, you will learn about:
- Baiting - Hooking
- Derailing - Crazy making
- Gunny Sacking - Hurt Museums
- Mind Reading
These are just a few of the labels with which
you will become familiar as the counseling
process unfolds and the healing takes place!
*How well do you and your spouse know each other?
*How well do you know yourself?
You will learn about each other and
about yourself through a variety of eye-
opening questionnaires and tests.
The Marriage & Relationship Rescue,
Recovery and Restoration Program
also includes, at no extra charge to you,
the T-JTA Test (Taylor-Johnson
Temperament Analysis Test), a 5-page
(Click here for more relationship humor)
profile of your personality attributes.
Most people have never seen a profiled graph of their persona, much less how their
partner sees them. This is a wonderful test affording you much insight as to who you are
and how you come across to your significant other.
Click here to view a sample of the T-JTA Test.
(Although it may look complicated, during your sessions you will learn how to easily interpret the results).
Click here to take some additional "Self Tests." (recommended before counseling)
Click here to view the Behavior Awareness Checklist (a great way to identify "stumbling blocks in your relationship)
YOU NEED TO KNOW THIS: If you decide to try the Marriage & Relationship
Rescue, Recovery and Restoration Program and one of you is involved in an affair with
another person (and you are entering the counseling process because you are uncertain
about what you should do and whether you are making the best choices) - it's not too late! 
This is still a great starting point for working through conflicting thoughts and
gaining insight as you learn the best ways to resolve your relationship decisions.
The BEST NEWS: The odds are in your favor!
YOU NEED TO KNOW THIS: "The odds are always in favor of those who try and
have faith in possibilities." People take part in raffles and lotteries even though the odds
are often millions to one. But there is always that one winner!
Your opportunity for succeeding with the Marriage & Relationship Rescue, Recovery and
Restoration Program is not a gamble - you will ALWAYS retain what was learned
and you will ALWAYS come out in some aspect as a WINNER!
To stop the music, use the controls above.
You're on the right track just by visiting this website. Now commit
to Rescuing, Recovering and Restoring your relationship by calling or
e-mailing me now. Our initial meeting will be free of charge.
For complete payment details, click here.
Thank you for your time. I look forward to speaking with you.
Eli T. Ross, Ph.D., M.F.T.
I'm Dr. Eli Ross.
"Give me 24 hours to save your marriage."
650-726-2104
contact@ontrackcounseling.org
Now available to serve the following areas:
Belmont, Campbell, Capitola, Cupertino, Fremont, Half Moon Bay, Hayward, Los Altos, Los Gatos, Menlo Park, Milpitas, Mountain View, Palo Alto, Redwood City, San Carlos, San Jose and Sunnyvale.
We are also available on the Central Coast in Big Sur, Carmel, Gilroy, Greenfield, Gonzales, Hollister, King City, Monterey, Salinas, San Juan Bautista, Soledad and Watsonville.
****House Calls Can Be Arranged!****
If you're ready to inquire and to talk, do call me or send an e-mail. If I can't answer
immediately, let me know the preferred times to return your call. Sometimes my day
gets full and I can best return calls in the early evening or early morning... but I will get
back to you!
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